Learning to Say No!!

Actually, this is a combination of things… I tend to always say yes to things, then find myself feeling overwhelmed.  Seriously… I work a 40 hour a week job, volunteer doing social media so don’t have to actually show up anywhere regularly, and run/workout.  Yet, I feel scattered and my schedule feels overwhelmed.  I cannot imagine what I would be like if I had kids or other responsibilities.  I tend to always want to do more, add more, accomplish more.  Please note, that earlier this week I entertained the thought of a second job to have more money to play…. really?  Perhaps more money, but less time and I am sure, less energy.  See… I really do try to overdo it!
 I forget that self care is something that needs to be a priority.  I say yes to things because I don’t want to let people down.  I say yes because, I am a control freak and don’t want to worry about having to redo something later if someone else didn’t do it right.  How on earth does one limit their schedule?!  
I think part of my problem is that after I immediately say yes to things, and then rethink them… and decide to not participate, attend, etc… I am guilt ridden for not doing something.  I feel like I am letting others down by changing my mind or choosing to not do something.  And that, is a very unfamiliar feeling for me.
Seriously… I have no idea what to do here.  My schedule doesn’t look insane, yet, it feels that way some days.  Does anyone else have this loss of control feeling?  I catch myself often saying yes to things (don’t get me wrong, I enjoy them) and then rearranging the plans I had, and feeling like things I wanted to do didn’t get done.  Hmm….. 
I have been getting better at taking time to think things through before agreeing to them.  Most of the time.  I look over my schedule and determine if

  1. I want to do this or feel like I should
  2. Have time to do this
  3. Will it make other things already in the schedule difficult to accomplish
  4. Cost

I included cost, because, lets be honest, that plays a part in things.  There are some things I would love to do, but realize that it will mess up my budget.  And, my husband and I are looking to buy a house this year, so we are saving a lot more and streamlining our expenses.  

In looking at this… it appears I DO have a plan…. I just need to stick with it!!  I know many of you out there are masters at saying no…. share your secrets?