Learning to Say No!!
23 Mar 2012
Actually, this is a combination of things… I tend to always say yes to things, then find myself feeling overwhelmed. Seriously… I work a 40 hour a week job, volunteer doing social media so don’t have to actually show up anywhere regularly, and run/workout. Yet, I feel scattered and my schedule feels overwhelmed. I cannot imagine what I would be like if I had kids or other responsibilities. I tend to always want to do more, add more, accomplish more. Please note, that earlier this week I entertained the thought of a second job to have more money to play…. really? Perhaps more money, but less time and I am sure, less energy. See… I really do try to overdo it!
I forget that self care is something that needs to be a priority. I say yes to things because I don’t want to let people down. I say yes because, I am a control freak and don’t want to worry about having to redo something later if someone else didn’t do it right. How on earth does one limit their schedule?!
I think part of my problem is that after I immediately say yes to things, and then rethink them… and decide to not participate, attend, etc… I am guilt ridden for not doing something. I feel like I am letting others down by changing my mind or choosing to not do something. And that, is a very unfamiliar feeling for me.
Seriously… I have no idea what to do here. My schedule doesn’t look insane, yet, it feels that way some days. Does anyone else have this loss of control feeling? I catch myself often saying yes to things (don’t get me wrong, I enjoy them) and then rearranging the plans I had, and feeling like things I wanted to do didn’t get done. Hmm…..
I have been getting better at taking time to think things through before agreeing to them. Most of the time. I look over my schedule and determine if
- I want to do this or feel like I should
- Have time to do this
- Will it make other things already in the schedule difficult to accomplish
- Cost
I included cost, because, lets be honest, that plays a part in things. There are some things I would love to do, but realize that it will mess up my budget. And, my husband and I are looking to buy a house this year, so we are saving a lot more and streamlining our expenses.
In looking at this… it appears I DO have a plan…. I just need to stick with it!! I know many of you out there are masters at saying no…. share your secrets?
Mar 23, 2012 @ 20:12:22
I really enjoyed this blog series. 🙂